The question asked in Column #3 is, “How did these facts affect you?”
The answer to this question includes facts and emotions. The emotions you felt. And the actions that you took in response to the facts and the feelings, which usually added more points to the mix.
facts
Just the facts, ma’am
Column #2 of the classic four column process, the facts that caused you to think of the name in Column #1 of the grudge list. Just the facts.
In my experience it is important to stick to the facts of the situation or actions associated with the name in Column #1. Either something that they did, something you did, or something that happened. Facts that can be seen and heard. Why is that name on your grudge list? That is all.
Facts versus thinking
“It is not what we don’t know that gets us in trouble, it is what we think we know that just ain’t so that gets us into trouble.”
Mark Twain
My best thinking got me here, into the rooms of AA.
My thinking was bad, and that got me into the Program, but the bad thinking and concomitant bad decisions were the results of clinging to bad theories and beliefs and persistently denying evidence and facts. My ability to honestly and truthfully perceive reality was impaired by my insistence that what I thought I knew must be true. What I thought I knew, that was just not so, was the real problem.