Last week, I shared about STEP – Solution To Every Problem – and why it’s such a great acronym.

After decades of applying the Twelve Steps to challenges and difficulties, I’ve seen firsthand that they work consistently and on any problem or issue. They are universal tools that we can use repeatedly – they don’t wear out.

Why STEP Works Every Time

The Steps are not just for addiction; they’re principles for living. No matter the situation, applying the Steps provides a pathway to clarity, humility, and growth.

There’s also a second reason this acronym stands out, beautifully illustrated in an old sponsorship joke. It makes people chuckle knowingly because of its truth.

The Sponsorship Joke That Reveals a Truth

Here’s how it goes:

To be recognized as a great sponsor, you only need three skills. The first is the ability to appear as though you’re listening. The second and third: the ability to choose a number between one and twelve and then stick with it.

When your sponsees come to you with their complaints, problems, and frustrations, here’s the method:

1. Listen (or at least appear to). Let them talk until they run out of steam.
2. Pick a number between one and twelve.
3. Say: “This sounds like a Step ___ problem.”
4. Stay silent. Let the Step do the work.

It doesn’t matter which number you pick. The sponsee will begin to see that applying any Step has value because each one speaks to universal truths about life and recovery.

The Wisdom Behind the Humor

Every Step contains lessons on surrender, responsibility, humility, and service. No matter where you start, you begin to apply the Principles that underlie the program.

When you do this:

• Your sponsees will see simplicity in complexity.
• They will praise your wisdom and insight.
• They will believe you truly care about their struggles.

And perhaps, in the process, they will learn that the Steps really are the Solution To Every Problem.

STEP is true. The Steps are the Solution To Every Problem – and we can trust them, one day and one issue at a time.

Books to Support Your Twelve Step Journey

If you’re looking to explore Step work, spiritual awakening, and personal transformation more deeply, check out The GEMS Series: 12-Step Shares, Notes and Thoughts. These books offer insights, reflections, and real-life recovery experience that complement the journey through the Twelve Steps.

The books in The GEMS Series: 12-Step Shares, Notes and Thoughts can be purchased through my estore or the major online book retailers. Look for GEMS, More GEMS, and Still More GEMS.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

Q1: What does “Every problem is a Step problem” mean?
A1: It means that any life issue can be approached through one of the Twelve Steps, each offering spiritual principles that lead to clarity and healing.

Q2: Are the Twelve Steps only for addiction?
A2: No. The Steps are universal tools for self-improvement, reflection, and growth in all areas of life.

Q3: How can I apply the Steps to daily problems?
A3: Start with honesty, willingness, and humility—core values of the Steps—and reflect on how each principle applies to your situation.

Q4: Why do sponsors say to “pick a number between 1 and 12”?
A4: It’s a humorous way of reminding us that any Step can offer insight—because all contain spiritual truth.

Q5: Can I start with any Step?
A5: Yes. Wherever you begin, you’ll uncover principles that guide you toward peace, responsibility, and growth.

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