This blog explores the time element in the Lord’s Prayer rule: “forgive us our debts/trespasses as we forgive others.”
Understanding the Temporal Dimension of Forgiveness in the Lord’s Prayer
An AA lady shared a new temporal insight. The topic of the meeting was forgiveness and forgiving. She said, “I follow the rule in the Lord’s Prayer; I am forgiven in the same way and at the same time as I forgive.”
She continued, “I am forgiven, as I forgive others. The adverb as means comparison, comparison between the way that something happens or is done, and something else. I will only be forgiven in the same measure and proportion as I have forgiven others. But the adverb as also means indicating that something happens while something else is taking place, as he walked, his arms swung back and forth. It means at the same time.
“I am forgiven, as I forgive others. So at the time I forgive others, I am forgiven myself. It all happens together. Thanks, I’ll pass.”
Experiencing Immediate Freedom Through Acts of Forgiveness
That was something to ponder. The benefits of forgiveness seem to coincide with the act of forgiveness. At first, I was surprised, but upon reflection, it made sense.
I remembered that afternoon when someone cut me off in traffic. Feeling shocked and angry, I yelled at them through the windshield. Later, I forgave them. When I forgave, I immediately felt a sense of freedom and joy. I was forgiven for losing my temper at the same moment I offered forgiveness.
I recalled an argument with my wife, I forgave her in my mind, and she suddenly agreed with me. I had been forgiven at the same time I forgave.
Forgiveness Transforms Everyday Moments
Always, the act of my forgiving triggers immediate positive changes.
Yes, forgiving my debts/trespasses has a temporal aspect. I am forgiven at the same time as I forgive.
It was a timely reminder. (Pun intended.)
FAQs About Forgiveness in AA Recovery
1. Why is forgiveness important in AA recovery?
Forgiveness helps release resentment, which can block spiritual growth and lead to relapse. Letting go of anger supports long-term sobriety.
2. How do I forgive myself in recovery?
Start by accepting past mistakes without judgment, practicing self-compassion, and remembering that recovery is about progress, not perfection.
3. Does forgiveness mean I have to trust someone again?
No. Forgiveness is about letting go of resentment. Trust is built separately and may or may not return, depending on the relationship.
4. What AA step is about forgiveness?
Steps 4, 8, and 9 focus directly on making amends and letting go of resentment, which are rooted in forgiveness.
5. How can forgiveness support long-term sobriety?
Forgiveness reduces emotional burdens, supports spiritual growth, and makes it easier to maintain peace and sobriety over time.
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