The inventory is now complete. While it is still fresh in my mind, I book time with my spiritual coach, Father Kevin. We have been working together for almost 30 years. When we meet, we have our annual ‘confessional conversation.’ The Step #5 process has evolved to become a confession and a conversation
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Defects Removal Worksheet (Updated)
My annual inventory is complete. I have had a Fifth Step confessional conversation with my spiritual advisor. We have identified the Exact Nature of the Defects and Wrongs. Now I can start to ponder the Causes and Conditions. With prayerful consideration, I think about actions that I can take which will change my thinking and attitudes; actions that are measurable. This sets me up for a quarterly review, which I can enter into my calendar. Each Quarter I can review progress and pray for direction.
Defects Removal Tool – My Story How the Worksheet Came to Be
Perhaps there is more to Step Seven than meets the eye. We forget the call to action in the Seventh Step Prayer.
In this essay, I contend that removing defects is not passive. We take actions; we don’t merely leave it to God.
What was my role?
The best is last; the fourth column is the best.
In Column #3, I saw patterns emerge in the free flow of words describing the way the facts of my life affected me. With the free flow brain dump onto paper, I could not deny the repeated words and phrases that bubbled up from my subconscious mind. This unveiling of patterns continues and is deepened in Column #4.
How were you affected?
The question asked in Column #3 is, “How did these facts affect you?”
The answer to this question includes facts and emotions. The emotions you felt. And the actions that you took in response to the facts and the feelings, which usually added more points to the mix.
Just the facts, ma’am
Column #2 of the classic four column process, the facts that caused you to think of the name in Column #1 of the grudge list. Just the facts.
In my experience it is important to stick to the facts of the situation or actions associated with the name in Column #1. Either something that they did, something you did, or something that happened. Facts that can be seen and heard. Why is that name on your grudge list? That is all.